I think people are made of several layers within them. Imagine each layer is representing a part of us, like we have an anger layer, a love layer, a hatred layer, a funny layer, a moral layer and thousands of other layers. I think that when two people get together in the name of love, they bring that layer right infront and display that to their partner. When they are at work, they pull out their professional layer. When they are with friends, they have funny layer or friend layer. Thus when 2 people are in love and with no problems, this is what you get. A happy unison.

Trouble starts when the layers are not in harmony. Although the love layer is strong, but if the irritable layer, or silly layer keeps taking dominance, imagine the other person's reaction to that layer. What do you get? Fireworks. When this happens we further counter-react with each others layers until we utilize all our negative layers to vent our frustrations. This is what happens when we have a fight. So what do we do to make sure layers that we don't want comes up?

Harmonizing your layers is firstly very important. To harmonize them, we must understand how they work, don't allow them to pop up and take charge.