"I want to be rich. I want to drive a nice car. I don't want to suffer anymore. I need a partner, I need this and noone else deserves this more than I."

We render so much emotions for trivial things, we believe we deserve them and strive to get them. The modern living imposes such pursuits as necessary to stay ahead in life.

I believe that when we take what is not ours in the context of need, we steal in the name of emotions. The strongest force of mankind. The element that moves mountains, alter history, make or break the existence of mankind. Such is the energy behind this feeling. Most of us use it well, and nothing propels us more than a motive does.

Stealing emotions? We are all born for a purpose. Each is a different mould and make. Each has its own set of emotions. Our duty is to learn to handle these emotions, tame them to use them only when necessary, not for everything else. We are supposed to use it to the benefits of others, not for ourselves. The concept of emotions is to use it to fight hunger, world diseases, mental illness or child abuse. That perhaps may seem too big at this point.

But instead, we can change ourselves and those around us. We can start by not advocating unnecessary emotions in ourself and those around us. We can change by questioning our motive with others, trying to keep it unwavering with the will to benefit ourselves. We can try to live without using emotions to create motives, convincing ourselves and others that this is right and justified.

Allow me to illustrate through a man woman relationship.
Don't we tempt another to gain benefits for ourselves. Don't we display an attraction so strong to tempt the opposite sex and harness from them, all in the name of love. Don't we use love to satisfy our own motive? Don't we steal forbidden fruits to satisfy an emotion? Most of us justify for our emotions, using a ryme or reason. We defend them so that we can use then at our will. We abuse ourselves through our emotions and then blame others.

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Look at the photograph. Are we willing to share our "true nature" just as this elephant does...displaying it for the whole world to see. Can we do the same with ourselves? Are we only presenting what we think and perceive as beautiful to others? And not the true us? Do we mislead people by impressing them with what they think we are? And when they get close enough...then they see the real us...the ugliness, the deception, the true nature.

The difference between us and the elephant is that we have a choice to hide while the elephant doesn't? We hide the true us to impress others.

Have you ever tried to spend time with yourself? That is what I did over the weekend. Some of you may think that is so weird, but really, I have so much going on I need to spend some moments with myself to think and plan. I enjoyed my company for two days. I spent it with myself. This is what I did:

Day 1
I started the day preparing a wonderful breakfast cum lunch. I sat and had it as if I was on a holiday in some exotic place faraway from the doldrums of my current surrounding. I had a little music, and opened my book of thoughts. I asked myself what I must do in the next 5 years. Then I asked myself what I would like to do in the next 5 years.

Between budget and luxury, I negotiated and we came to several agreements. After that, I meditated. It gives me an introspection of myself. I felt very comfortable with all the things I am presently involved and came to terms with some new changes I am going to make soon. I then did some reading, spent some time on the internet and entertained a few friends who dropped by.

Day 2
I stayed in bed all day reading some interesting material about life. This was food for my soul. I went out, enjoyed some fresh air. My mind broke free from the staleness of trapped thoughts.

I am at bliss, prepared for next few weeks to come.I was in my own company, and I enjoyed it.

Do you wonder where your time goes? Do you feel the passing of time as swiftly as it comes? Or is time moving in a slumber, and you need to tell it to hurry? Time is so important to me these days. I want to stop it and hold it from moving so that I can do all the things I missed. But that remains just a fantasy, I know that time waits for no man, not even a king.

I put my life in a pie chart today. Looking at it from this perspective...it looks sad. Internet has replaced my fun time. Work and school tires me. I am left with no option to breathe time and embrace it! Each day just flies... I am losing mine to things that should only play a small part! I am wasting time.

When I was in college, I had a friend named S. Because home was far away from college, I sometimes visited her home. Eventually we became good friends. I did not realise my other friends did not like that. One day, my other friend, let me give her a name too, L, started telling me things about S.

It started with little things first and slowly I began to take notice. My mind started to see things the way L wanted. One day I picked a fight with S and ended the friendship. But S questioned me on several issues that got me thinking.

I put on my thinking cap and it took me awhile to realise the sweet poison concept. Sweet poison is when someone close to us gives us information to benefit themselves. Sweet poison makes us see things we would otherwise not see. Sweet poison is sweet because it comes from those we care about, but it is poison because it harms us. Have you been hit by sweet poison?

I have two good friends. Each have a problem with the other. I am in the middle. I strongly think they are both correct from their perspective. I realise that between them, the level that they have understood the situation differs greatly. They both see the problem with a different pair of eyes, thus they draw a different story. A different story created a different conclusion. This led to a conflict.

I thought for awhile. Then, I put them together. All I needed to do was to draw one story on the same board, merging their thoughts. Now they are talking to each other. The problem ceased to exist. What does this tell you?

Do we see only what we want to see? Are we in conflict with someone because of the limitations of our perspective? Can we just zoom out and see the bigger picture? If that fails, can we see it with our heart instead?

As we grow older, life becomes more difficult. We have to shoulder more responsibilities. Our roles changes from being taken care off by our parents to taking care of someone else..like a spouse, children, other family members and friends.

As we move away from the comfort of home, we journey into the world of adulthood only to find it not as perfect at it seems to be. We encounter all types of people, there are those who only want to be taken care off, and will take care of you if and only if they see that you will do the same too.

There are those who pretend they care for you, only to leave you when you need them. And the worst of the lot, those who rob you of your happiness... the older we get, the more broken we are. Thus don't go around breaking people.

A famous saying. Used easily whenever we have to do something we rather not do. We just push it away, hoping it eventually does not crop up and we are FREE. Doesn't this make us do things only when we benefit, like whatever you do you must have something in return...otherwise it is considered a waste of time? Maybe this is true for our work and things associated outside the family circle.
I think we should not bring this home to family members. Not for the ones who depend on you.

Yet sometimes we do....humans are strange and most times, although being declared so intelligent as to other animal kingdom, we still make these errors! When a child cries, we pick them up and console them, but when an adult cries...we say they should grow up.