Wednesday, December 27, 2006
Pain : Physical Vs Emotional
Physical pain is easier to see than emotional pain. It is easier to define, understand, and usually the proof would be in front of you, but what about the emotional pain? If someone has a broken leg, we can pretty much imagine the pain. But what about the emotional pain? How can we measure that? Do we measure the tear drops, or can we judge by the gloom on the face? Is there such thing as the level of gloominess?

I think emotional pain is so hard to see, and that people should be giving this a priority than physical pain, because something can usually be done about physical pain. Emotional pain is funny because it plunges at you when you don't need it, and spoils the chances of enjoying that moment the person is in. Time is lost because of emotions. And women carry much more than men. I find that this is not taken care of as much as it should be, and that is why there is a distinct difference between a man and woman.

Men on the other hand are better masters of their emotions. Of course this may not be true in all cases, but this is my general assumption. There are always exceptions to theories. My proposal is that if women are taught better to handle their emotional pain and men to better demonstrate their emotional pain, the lack of understanding between the two species can be minimized. Perhaps women need to speak less and men more.

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Wednesday, December 13, 2006
Chase


We are all chasing for something in life. It can be money, happiness, personal contentment, love, education etc. The list can be quite endless. But do you notice we always chase something that we don't have, or cannot have? Then we do it with great valor, as if our sole purpose on this planet is that single purpose defined in chasing the object of our need.

I lagged behind in many things. But now I am on the "run". I am chasing my life. I feel I am left behind as compared to my counterparts, and over the past two years, I have done quite a bit. But my chase continues, I am clear of my goals and pursuits. The one thing I learnt from this is that to do it requires alot of patience and perseverance. I did not give up even on days things look bleak. I did not give up even when others made it difficult for me. I kept on the journey.
I think if all of us are clear with that, then the speed to "run" increases and we can reach that finishing line. But beware if your chase depends on another person, or if you allow another person to guide you in misguiding you, your effort would be futile.

What are you chasing?

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Saturday, December 09, 2006
Analyze this!
Tell me, what is your first impression of this?

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Thursday, December 07, 2006
I Love You
I have started saving this word for special occasions only. Used too often diminishes its meaning and value. I notice some say it too often, but then at a simple argument the opposite is said too easily too. I have also seen some say it too often and yet do the opposite behind their partners. I feel love should be demonstrated in each and everything you do, not just in words. Otherwise it becomes just another word uttered.

I want to save these words on special days like on cheering him up on a bad moody day, or birthdays, or some special nights, or suddenly in telephone conversations. What would your flavor be?

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Tuesday, December 05, 2006
Conquer or be Conquered

Do you feel sometimes that people want us to participate in their lives when they themselves are not sure what path they tread on? They want to discover their own path by pulling us into it. What happens when that takes place? I feel that we loose ourselves in their world. Our world comes to a halt. When two people or more are together, this takes place. One conquers and the other conquered. I find that most people want to invade the other. I don’t mind if it is a safe invasion, but most times I find it an intrusion.

Do you notice that in almost all types of relationships there is always the conqueror and the conquered? When we meet a new person, and they attract us, don't we strive to get to know them, to know everything there is to know until there is nothing left? And don't they do the same thing too. Eventually after that the attention on that person dissipates and we move on. I believe we always make a mistake and don’t realize that to truly care for a person, be it in any form of relationship is to avoid this invasion and allow the growth of that person around you and share your own growth with them. Only then I truly feel there is substance to the word relationship.

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Friday, December 01, 2006
Deafening Conversations

I am no longer able to participate in aimless conversations. They are deafening to me. Silence gives me the lessons of life that I seek, not sound. Of course it is not the same for all, some depend on music and some on friends, some on spouses and some on the goals they wish to achieve, but I depend on silence.
I spent the last 24 hours in silence and loneliness. In itself it is almost a form of meditation. Thoughts and emotions pass me, yet I learnt about myself, my strengths and weaknesses. Is it that important, you may ask? Yes it is to me. I believe in self indulgence to check myself. I should not be a mystery to me. I must know myself if I ever want someone else to know me. I must understand myself to recognize the other person outside me. I go through the entire spectra of life and my participation in it. I analysis my response to my surroundings, and being a woman, I tend to have higher emotional sensitivity as compared to a man. I analyze this too.

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